As part of the Measure of Success Blog Tour, I am excited to be writing alongside hundreds of other inspiring authors about what success looks like.
Can a woman be feminine, godly, and ambitious?
Moms often struggle with measuring our success.
Whether we work outside the home, are WAHMs, or SAHMs, we struggle with balancing our responsibilities and feeling appreciated or satisfied with our accomplishments.
How do you measure whether or not your work is “successful”?
Do you rely on outsiders to tell you that you’re successful? Do you ever feel successful? Do you need numbers or statistics to measure your success?
As a blogger, I often look at my analytics or social media reach to measure “my success” with readers. But I really should follow God’s lead when I write instead of all the hoops I feel I must jump through or the SEO checklists recommended by all the experts.
As a mom, my measure of success is when my kids are agreeable, showing the fruit of the Spirit, growing academically and relationally, and exhibit the joy of the Lord.
As a wife, I measure my success by whether my husband is pleased and satisfied and cheerful. He’s pretty easy-going so sometimes I have to just ask if everything is going smoothly enough with the housework and kids and life in general. I have learned that assumptions are never right.
Can a woman stay home with her kids and utilize the giftedness toward productivity that God has given her?
I once asked a famous Christian homeschool mom speaker and mentor to many if she ever reached that point…? She didn’t even let me finish the question before she cut me off with a firm, “No!”
I beg to differ.
I have had moments, fleeting moments, when I feel the hand of God pat me on the shoulder like He’s saying, “Take notice. This is good. This is right. You’re doing a good job. Remember this moment.”
I define that as success.
Do you think it’s possible for women to “have it all”? In other words, can someone have a thriving career and a thriving home life? What do you think makes this possible or impossible?
I joke with my husband in the evenings when he gets home that I’ve had a two for three day or only a one for three day.
I only once have had a three for three day. It was a crazy good day and I was absolutely exhausted by mid-afternoon!
Something usually has to give.
I can have a great blogging day, writing and social media-ing productively.
I can have a great housewife day, completing laundry, organizing, doing dishes, vacuuming, preparing delicious and nutritious meals and having dinner ready on time, baking bread, sweeping and mopping floors, wiping bathrooms, scrubbing toilets.
I can have a great homeschool mom day, reading aloud history biographies with my snuggly babies, patiently explaining math concepts, doing science experiments, admiring backyard birds and encouraging drawings of them for nature study, teaching Latin and grammar, listening to classical music with tea in the afternoons, and being intentional and available and cheerful all day long.
As far as “thriving,” I do think it’s possible to thrive. With support from my husband and children, I often feel I thrive at my business and with duties at home. My bad days are fewer and fewer as my kids grow and help both at home and with the business duties. Seeking God’s guidance with decisions and direction for every aspect is important.
What do you think has shaped your sense of success? What do you think has driven your choices about work?
My idea of success now is different than it was in the beginning, or even last year. As I grow in my faith and mature in my Christian walk, I find that I need less and less human approval and it’s easier to work with integrity. It’s easier for me to accept my husband’s lead and advice when it comes to my blogging and our essential oils business. We pray about decisions regarding our business, homeschool, and personal choices. As uncomfortable as my husband is praying aloud, I have learned to sit silently and be thankful for prayer time since it draws us closer to each and to God. Seeking God to teach us and lead us with decisions takes a lot of pressure off and helps me be calmer with difficult choices.
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Carolyn McCulley wrote The Measure of Success about women, work, and the home.
1. How do you measure whether or not your work is “successful”?
2. Can a woman stay home with her kids and utilize the giftedness toward productivity that God has given her?
3. Do you think it’s possible for women to “have it all”? In other words, can someone have a thriving career and a thriving home life? What do you think makes this possible or impossible?
4. What do you think has shaped your sense of success? What do you think has driven your choices about work?