Welcome back to 31 Days of Servant Leadership.
How do you encourage youth to be leaders?
I’m pretty disgusted by all the hype that it’s normal to have kids with that “tween/teen” angst and stinky attitude. It’s normal?!
It saddens me that Christians buy into this normality as well as everyone else.
I hear and read things like this all the time:
“She’s just going through a phase.”
“That’s just her age.”
“She’ll grow out of it.”
“Those hormones are just acting up.”
Why must it be normal?
It’s unacceptable to have an ungrateful, selfish, pouty, sinful attitude.
I won’t allow it in my home. I won’t allow my daughter to act that way anywhere.
I won’t allow it in a toddler, child, tween, teen, or adult. There is no excuse.
Parents compromise on too much.
If we don’t disciple our kids from babyhood to adulthood, who will?
And the world says it’s normal for tweens and teens to look like adults and act like adults. It’s normal to look out for #1, and have tantrums if she doesn’t get what she wants.
I say it’s not normal. My expectations for my kids are much higher than the norm. I expect them to behave and be respectful of others regardless of how they feel. It’s part of their training.
When we fail? (Because even I fail and have a stinky attitude sometimes.) We pray, ask forgiveness, and carry on. We try to learn and do better. We learn triggers and try to avoid them. Planning and scheduling helps.
Keeping communication open is key. Helping our kids and youth communicate their feelings, confusions, experiences. Narration about their day is important. Take time to listen.
The hormone part? There are remedies for that. We use essential oils, exercise, whole foods, supplements, plenty rest, and downtime to relieve stress and make sure we are in optimal health. Check your health if you’re always grumpy.
But as parents, we must have grace for our children. They are learning how to be people. We are guides and coaches to help them learn how to manage their emotions, reactions, relationships.
There are no excuses.
Read this series from The REBELution.
Read this article from Christianity Today.