I’m really not into making New Year’s resolutions.

I felt in the past that I just set myself up for failure.

I don’t feel I need to make any drastic changes for improvement. Of course, there is always room for improvement, but I don’t need an overhaul or anything.

I don’t need any challenges for my health, weight, reading, happiness, or faith.

I don’t need a one word to live by. I’m a Christian and I don’t need any Eastern mysticism or New Age mantra.

I don’t need a gimmick to post online, to show anyone that I’m anything.

I don’t need a fancy expensive planner with stickers and colored pens. I don’t need a Bible coloring book. I would never use those.

I don’t need affirmation from strangers that I’m on the right track.

I just carry on.

I frequently set small goals that are attainable – all throughout the year.

What I do year-round:

I already read at least one book each week, in addition to multiple read alouds with my children. We don’t read fluff or self-deprecating pseudo-Christian self-help garbage. We read classic literature, the Bible, well-written non-fiction on a variety of subjects, and occasionally popular contemporary fiction.

We enjoy music and art, visiting museums often. We create and learn, listen and observe.

I read the Bible, write scripture, and pray every day. My children do a Bible study together every morning. We as a family have devotions every evening before bed.

I exercise almost daily for 30 minutes or more.

We all eat mostly natural whole foods. We all cook together and it’s fun to try new recipes. We’re incorporating more plant-based recipes into our repertoire.

We take vitamins, use a happy lamp, and try to go outside daily to stave off depression and winter blues.

We’re well on our way to being debt-free! Our only debt is a car payment and one low-interest loan.

What I’m not doing:

I realize I can’t change the world. While there are probably many great charitable organizations, we choose not to support any at this time. I realize this is an unpopular view and makes me seem callous, but I can’t justify spending time and money where I see so little change or good. I won’t share hearts on Facebook or dump ice water on myself. I’m not going to throw out all my clothes that might not be sustainable and only wear whatever the trend is this week to support whomever. Too many people have the “look at me!” addiction for all they do for whatever cause.

I focus on respecting my children. “Even if we fight against racial injustice, even if we fight for world peace, even if we fight for a sustainable world, if we are using our power over the children in our lives, we are perpetuating injustice and oppression. We are setting children up to accept a world that is based on the more powerful controlling the less powerful.” Teresa Graham Brett

Worrying what others think. I just don’t have any time for this. Moderators may delete my comments and posts from online groups. I may get hateful comments on my blog posts. I may be ridiculed by family or at church or in our local homeschool community for my personal views and parenting style. I’m secure in myself and I don’t need the approval of others. People may be rude or thoughtless, but I am responsible for my reactions.

I limit my screentime and social media use because of how negative it makes me feel. I don’t need any comparisons to feel less-than. I won’t shame or embarrass my children or cats or husband online or in public. I ask their permission before posting anything about them online. I watched Broken Mirror on Netflix recently. Technology is a tool. Social media should not be a way of life. It’s artificial and I prefer reality.

What are you doing this year?

With the new year, come all these resolutions that seem almost impossible to keep for more than a week or month or so.

It’s overwhelming and frustrating.

Like we need another reminder of failure, right?

We all have room for improvement.

Whether it’s more exercise, eating healthier, to stop saying bad words, eating at home more, stopping smoking, losing weight, reading our Bibles regularly, or budgeting better, whatever {your goal is here}.

Don’t go crazy and set like thirty goals. Don’t set yourself up to fail. Start with one, or five, or ten. Go slowly and complete one goal at a time.

No matter what your goals might be, here is an action plan to keep those resolutions through to completion.

1. Set a realistic, specific, measurable goal.

Instead of just saying “eating healthier,” state your goal very specifically.

“I will:

• limit my sugar intake
• get up earlier to make and eat a protein-rich breakfast
• eat an extra serving or fruits and vegetables each day”

This is absolutely achievable. It is specific. It can be measured.

2. Write your goal down.

For real. You need to think it, read it, say it, learn it. Internalize that goal. Make it your own.

Write your goal down:

• in your planner or calendar
• on your dream board
• in your prayer journal
• on the bathroom mirror.

Write your goal down and place it somewhere you will see it regularly and often to remind you.

3. Tell a friend.

We all need accountability.

Ask someone to help you stay on track lovingly. Ask her to pray for you and help you during those times when you want to quit. Text her when you’ve reached a milestone or have her set up a reminder to check up on you weekly.

4. Set reasonable milestones.

Remember, goals should be measurable. But be realistic with your abilities to change. It’s difficult to stay motivated and harder to get out of a rut of bad habits.

Don’t expect to lose 50 pounds in a month. That’s not healthy or actionable.

Just like all the experts say not to weigh yourself every day so you don’t get discouraged.

Set reasonable stepping stones. Take each day at a time. Set weekly or monthly check-ins.

5. Celebrate and don’t beat yourself up.

We all have bad days. We forget. We get distracted. We lose hope. We get busy.

We eat that double chip mocha fudge almond ice cream sundae with whipped cream, chocolate drizzle, sprinkles, chopped nuts, and a raspberry on top. And we love it. Until the tummyache later.

Tomorrow is another day. Start over the next morning. Clean slate. Forgive yourself and move on.

But when you hit a milestone? Celebrate like crazy! Praise God! Call your friends and family to rejoice with you.

Send me a message and I will squeal like a teenage fangirl.

We set personal goals. I set goals for our family and homeschool to achieve each year.

What are your goals this year?

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