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Preparing Kids for a PCS

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August 25, 2016 By Jennifer Lambert 14 Comments

Moving is stressful for anyone, but especially so for children.

PCS is a huge change, whether it’s the first or the fifth.

PCS=Permanent Change of Station, even though it seems temporary – usually only 2-4 years!

According to the DOD, the average military child moves 6 to 9 times between kindergarten and high school graduation.

Military families relocate 10 times more often than civilian families – on average, every 2 to 4 years.

That’s a roller-coaster!

Moving is more stressful than divorce.

Think about that.

How can we make the moving transition easier on our kids?

Preparing Kids for a PCS

Prepare

As soon as you know a PCS is coming up, start preparing the kids for the transition.

Talk about it, explain that you’ll have to pack up everything you own and move to a new home.

Even though it could take a few more months to receive actual orders, it’s important to start the conversation so that kids can prepare their hearts and minds for the changes.

Discuss purging items and having a yard sale. I have a PCS checklist you can download!

Educate

Start reading about moving. Show your child what to expect.

Learn about your new location as soon as you know where you’re going. Research the area, school opportunities, activities, church, day trip ideas.

It’s exciting to move to a new town and explore all it has to offer!

There’s an app from Sesame Street: The Big Moving Adventure, available from iTunes, Amazon, and Google Play. I have a book list at the end of the post for you!

Listen

Pay attention to your kids’ needs. Listen to their complaints and concerns.

Moving is never easy and it might be very difficult for kids to leave their friends, school, activities.

Babies and toddlers have a hard time understanding. Teens might rebel.

Try to handle disappoint well. If you’re upset about where you’re going, the kids will internalize that and have bad feelings about their new locale – and you’re stuck with it for a few years!

Every location has benefits. We’ve PCSed to some places not on our list and we made the best of it.

We also knew people who hated living in Hawaii and Germany, so there’s that.

Prayer does wonders!

Celebrate

Have a farewell party to say goodbyes.

Give your child a job to do during packing out and moving in so they feel like a valuable part of the process.

Do something silly and fun like having a pizza picnic on the empty floor after packing out, or sleeping on an air mattress the last night. You can repeat this on the other end!

Let your child pack a few treasures for comfort during travel.

Try to stay at cool hotels if possible during travel to your new location.

Start out at the new location with new traditions.

Let your child choose something for his or her new room, within reason and budget – new bedding, a paint color for an accent wall, a collectible, a new rug or picture.

Keep in Touch

With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever to keep in touch with friends from around the world.

Make it easy with your children and their friends with social media or free email accounts. There’s Skype and Facetime too.

I know some families who even plan vacations back to visit friends or somewhere in between to meet every year.

Get Help

It’s an added stress to have little ones underfoot during packing out and moving. Enlist a trusted teen or adult friend to help keep little kids occupied in the backyard, with a video in a corner, or even taking them out to get ice cream or to the park. This gives them a break from the tediousness of packing and protects them from getting in the way. Then you get to focus on the task at hand.

Put aside big changes during a move. Don’t potty-train or wean babies during this stressful time. Schedules go out the window.

Get Kids Settled ASAP

Get kids’ rooms back in order as soon as possible to make the transition easier on them. Familiar blankets and toys will help them feel comfortable in a new home.

Then work on the kitchen and common spaces – with the necessary items you need immediately.

Find fun new places to explore and meet new friends! Let your child lead you in her time. We have a couple very social, outgoing kids and two who are more reserved and quiet.

Look at moving as an adventure! Happiness is contagious and the kids will catch that mood if you show it.

Here’s a great PCS printable pack for little ones and some planning printables!

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Comments

  1. Liz says

    September 1, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    Such great practical tips! I love stumbling across other MilSpouses who blog! Where are y’all stationed now?

    Reply
    • Jennifer says

      September 1, 2016 at 3:21 pm

      We’re still in Germany. We PCS next spring!

      Reply
  2. Julie says

    September 26, 2016 at 2:33 pm

    Great advice to make the transition a little easier.
    I might be the odd ball here, but not sure what “PCS” means? Going to google it;)

    Your #MomentsofHope neighbor,
    Julie

    Reply
    • Jennifer says

      September 26, 2016 at 3:08 pm

      Permanent Change of Station. I included that in case others don’t know. Thanks!

      Reply
  3. Helene says

    September 27, 2016 at 12:45 am

    Although not a military family as missionaries we moved that often. It is really tough on kids. But in God’s hands they can be resilient!

    Reply
  4. Jeanne Takenaka says

    September 27, 2016 at 9:03 pm

    Great tips here! My hubs retired from the Air Force when our oldest was 6 months old (we started late in life…God’s plan). But we moved when our oldest was almost 5 and our youngest was 3 1/2. One of the things we did was create a little scrapbook of places we would take the kids to when we moved—the nearby park, the library, and other places, so they would be able to look forward to the new location.

    I can understand why some people might not want to PCS to Hawaii, but Germany?! My hubs tried to get there his entire military career. Alas, the closest we got was Alabama. :)

    I’m following you today at Testimony Tuesday. It’s so nice to “meet” you!

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  5. Melanie Redd says

    September 28, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    Very practical suggestions for moving! It can be quite an adventure with children. We’ve done it several times.
    I appreciate all of the great ideas that you have shared.
    Found your post today on Sitting Among Friends.
    Hope you have a blessed day~
    Melanie

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  6. Lori Schumaker says

    September 29, 2016 at 10:18 pm

    I’ve always wondered about the difficulties in those transitions. This seems like a great list that will help families facing this situation! Thanks so much for sharing hope at #MomentsofHope!
    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

    Reply
  7. Lori says

    September 30, 2016 at 3:14 am

    We’re not in the military but we’ve moved several times. Preparing children for the move is so important. I saw where you said you are PCS again next spring. Will it be back in the States are some other fun and exciting location? Thanks for sharing with Thankful Thursdays.

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    • Jennifer says

      September 30, 2016 at 10:32 am

      Most likely back to the States. We’d love to stay in Europe!

      Reply
  8. Kimberly H. Smith says

    October 6, 2016 at 1:26 am

    Loving this post and your other related posts. My family and I are moving to a new city in our current state this month. Although Hubby and I have moved many times for his job (in state and out of state), we’ve never done it when our son was of school age. Thank you for the tips, Jennifer. Featuring you on the Traffic Jam Weekend Linky Party going live tomorrow evening.

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