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April 23, 2018 By Jennifer Lambert 17 Comments

I see so many questions about homeschooling and parenting. In the absence of a village, parents flock to Facebook to crowdsource answers. Those answers are often based on experience. They’re not always the best answers nor do they work for everyone.

I find the easiest and best answer to most parenting and homeschooling questions, whether about behavior issues or scheduling or feeling just worn out from the endless chatter and noise of a houseful of young children is to create a peaceful home atmosphere.

But how does one do that? What does it look like?

When I had my third child, I was worn out. I couldn’t understand why I never felt like I could complete a day without lots of caffeine and needed to nap when my toddler and baby did in the early afternoon, praying my older child just read or played quietly in her room.

I was homeschooling. I was keeping a spotless home. I was doing, doing, doing.

I was exhausted and miserable. I hated myself. I hated my husband. I even hated my kids.

I felt like a failure.

I knew it wasn’t right. I knew something was wrong, but I couldn’t place my finger on it nor could I pull myself out of it.

I asked my pastor’s wife for a meeting and she arrived at my home where I had cleaned and stressed over providing her homemade lemonade and fresh-baked cookies.

While I expected to be pointed to Bible verses about the Proverbs 31 women, she asked some practical questions. When were we eating dinner? When was bedtime? Why were the kids’ things all hidden away from the public rooms?

I also went to a doctor to rule out physical issues. I was put on a supplement regimen for adrenal failure.

Then I implemented a new peaceful lifestyle.

It took years to get comfortable with who I am and how I live and what my priorities and preferences are.

I shouldn’t have to make excuses for my priorities. I try to be patient with people who aren’t where I am in the spiritual journey.

This is a key to happiness.

How to Create a Peaceful Home:

Self.

Understand your past, your story – and know your triggers. Deal with it.

If you’re anxious or tired or ill, make the necessary changes to heal yourself.

If you’ve suffered some traumatic experience, get professional help to work through it.

Nurture yourself. Pray or meditate, get outside, exercise, eat well.

Deal with finances. Do your best to get out of debt.

Work through any idols or addictions.

Legalism is the opposite of peace. Set goals and priorities but don’t worry about so many rules and regulations.

Realize that we go through cycles and seasons, just like nature.

Space.

Remove clutter. Feng shui ideas really do help remove anxiety.

Go minimalist. If you have to buy something to put somethings in, you have too much stuff.

Soothing color scheme. My house is decorated in all blues and greens, because these are my favorite colors, but they’re also calming.

Aromatherapy and music. We have diffusers in every rooms with essential oils. We often listen to music while making and eating meals.

Practice hygge.

Have tech-free time to connect.

Spouse.

(or significant other or pet or whatever)

Practice nonviolent communication.

Argue intelligently, calmly, and lovingly. You don’t have to hide conflict from your children. They need to learn healthy resolution.

Learn how to really apologize.

Be constant students of each other.

Don’t make excuses to be complacent. Don’t get lazy. Those are causes of adultery and midlife crises.

Yeah, most days are boring and tedious. It’s not all romance and over-the-top. Duty outweighs everything else.

Children.

Model self-control.

Coach on healthy relationships.

Don’t force sharing.

Don’t punish, bribe, or reward. Gently guide and communicate well.

Spanking is abuse. Never, ever hit a child.

Allow for lots of unstructured play time and go outdoors every day.

Maybe you grew up in a household with strife and you don’t really have a relationship with your siblings.

Don’t let your kids make those same mistakes.

Most days are ordinary. They don’t have to be drenched in negativity. Find the extraordinary in the tiniest of things.

Service.

Focus on others first.

But don’t neglect yourself.

We need to teach our kids empathy and kindness. We do that by modeling it.

Do your part to make the world a better place. It may be charity work, recycling, cycling or walking instead of driving, cleaning a creek, planting a garden, whatever.

What can you begin doing right now towards a more peaceful home?


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Comments

  1. Christina Morley says

    April 23, 2018 at 6:16 pm

    Wow! You packed a lot in a few words. Always good reminders. Visiting from the LMMLinkup.

    Reply
  2. Laura at Fantastically Four says

    April 23, 2018 at 7:43 pm

    Love these tips! They are spot on. So glad you encourage us to address the our issues (especially with therapy if needed) and to leave legalism behind.

    Reply
  3. April J Harris says

    April 24, 2018 at 5:10 pm

    It is so important to create a peaceful atmosphere, almost a sanctuary, within our homes, especially in today’s manic, materialistic world. You have shared some wonderful ideas and tips here, Jen, and really got to the heart of the matter. Thank you so much for sharing this excellent post with the Hearth and Soul Link Party. I know so many will find it helpful.

    Reply
    • Jennifer says

      April 25, 2018 at 5:44 pm

      Thanks, April. I like how you said “manic and materialistic.” It seems that’s my constant battle for sanctuary.

      Reply
  4. Donna Reidland says

    April 25, 2018 at 3:32 pm

    We all have to find our own way, but it’s good to remember that God only calls us to be faithful in our parenting. We do that by teaching our children God’s principles and giving lots of grace to them and to ourselves. Blessings.

    Reply
  5. Lori says

    April 25, 2018 at 5:35 pm

    The first poster, Christina is right – you packed a lot into a few words! :-)

    What I love about your words is your focus on taking action to meet a need/desire.

    Reply
    • Jennifer says

      April 25, 2018 at 5:43 pm

      It’s what I needed to hear years ago, but had to work out for myself since I had no mentors.

      Reply
  6. Jessi's Design says

    April 25, 2018 at 5:45 pm

    L-o-v-e! Amen!

    Reply
  7. Debbie Wilson says

    April 25, 2018 at 6:53 pm

    Excellent tips. I had to move from human doing to human being. And I still have to remember to accept who I am instead of measuring myself next to those who seem to accomplish so much more.

    Reply
  8. Mother of 3 says

    April 25, 2018 at 11:34 pm

    So many great ideas! I found that in order to have a peaceful home I needed to relax my standards and expectations. It took time but gradually I realized that everyone needed to feel comfortable living in all the shared spaces of our home. It was OK if not every single thing was always put away exactly where it belonged.

    Reply
  9. Tracy Albiero says

    April 26, 2018 at 2:55 am

    TOO MUCH CLUTTER!!! This has been hitting home lately. I am starting to sort and donate. I have way too much and it is becoming a burden. #trekkingthrough

    Reply
  10. Gayl says

    April 30, 2018 at 12:26 am

    Jennifer, thanks for these ideas for making our homes places of peace. This is such good advice: “Most days are ordinary. They don’t have to be drenched in negativity. Find the extraordinary in the tiniest of things.” I firmly believe that we can find beauty in simple, ordinary, everyday things. Thanks so much for sharing with us at the #LMMLinkup. Blessings to you!

    Reply
  11. The Pramshed says

    May 1, 2018 at 1:54 pm

    It’s so important to create a peaceful home and one where you can all relax. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    Reply
  12. Carri says

    May 4, 2018 at 8:01 pm

    Really great ideas here to implement into many areas of our lives. This post gave me something to think about, and a desire to take action. Thank you!

    Reply
  13. Rebecca Jones says

    May 4, 2018 at 8:11 pm

    Jesus is our peace and He should be our most important guest. We forget He resides in us, the more peace we have ourselves the more peaceful the home. We really do need to declutter, and it only human to hate things going wrong.

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  14. a jar full of marigolds says

    May 4, 2018 at 9:54 pm

    Wonderful words. I find that my house is most peaceful when I am at peace. When I keep myself open to the Holy Spirit working in me I am better able to bring peace into my home and into my family.

    Reply
  15. Carrie Lane says

    May 14, 2018 at 3:43 pm

    Great advice!
    Carrie

    Reply
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