People who have never suffered from depression just don’t understand.
Our society overuses the word depressed to mean temporarily sad.
But depression is an ongoing illness.
Depression doesn’t just go away when life quality, finances, relationships, or circumstances improve.
Medications don’t always help. I’ve tried several and I tired of the side effects and being a guinea pig. I don’t like feeling numb or half here.
So many people think they’re really helping when they recommend trite self-help books that just tell the reader to be happier, listen to more Contemporary Christian pop music, read the Bible, and pray more.
A business person makes money off your problems, they are invested in you having a problem. When Rachel Hollis says you have a problem, it’s because she hopes to profit from your problem.
Devi Abraham
I do appreciate the memoirs about people rescuing themselves by running with their dogs or finding something to live for – clinging to hope in a prayer, pet, memory, or child.
It’s just that every person with depression is different, experiences it differently, copes differently.
Here’s what depression feels like to me.
These books show a reality to depression and living and surviving…or not.
Depression isn’t just feeling down or having the blues or feeling out of sorts.
It’s a nagging, staticy feeling at the very base of the brain all the time, often rising to the surface and taking over everything.
I don’t think there are many books that show the harsh reality of depression.
Even having depression, I often look at others and characters in movies and books and wonder why they have it? I find myself believing the lies of “but they have such a nice life with no problems.”
Depression lies.
If I wanted to not be this way, then I wouldn’t be this way.
There are oodles of coping mechanisms and ways to bring us back to ourselves. I like to read.
Books about Depression
Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig
Like nearly one in five people, Matt Haig suffers from depression. Reasons to Stay Alive is Matt’s inspiring account of how, minute by minute and day by day, he overcame the disease with the help of reading, writing, and the love of his parents and his girlfriend (and now-wife), Andrea. And eventually, he learned to appreciate life all the more for it.
Everyone’s lives are touched by mental illness: if we do not suffer from it ourselves, then we have a friend or loved one who does. Matt’s frankness about his experiences is both inspiring to those who feel daunted by depression and illuminating to those who are mystified by it. Above all, his humor and encouragement never let us lose sight of hope. Speaking as his present self to his former self in the depths of depression, Matt is adamant that the oldest cliché is the truest—there is light at the end of the tunnel. He teaches us to celebrate the small joys and moments of peace that life brings, and reminds us that there are always reasons to stay alive.
All the Bright Places by Jennifer Niven
When Finch and Violet meet on the ledge of the bell tower at school—six stories above the ground— it’s unclear who saves whom. Soon it’s only with Violet that Finch can be himself. And it’s only with Finch that Violet can forget to count away the days and start living them. But as Violet’s world grows, Finch’s begins to shrink…
All the Bright Places is coming to Netflix soon! I’m interested to see what they do with it.
By The Time You Read This, I’ll Be Dead by Julie Anne Peters
After a lifetime of being bullied, Daelyn is broken beyond repair. She has tried to kill herself before, and is determined to get it right this time. Though her parents think they can protect her, she finds a Web site for “completers” that seems made just for her. She blogs on its forums, purging her harrowing history. At her private Catholic school, the only person who interacts with her is a boy named Santana. No matter how poorly she treats him, he just won’t leave her alone. And it’s too late for Daelyn to be letting people into her life . . . isn’t it?
In this harrowing, compelling novel, Julie Anne Peters shines a light on what might make a teenager want to kill herself, as well as how she might start to bring herself back from the edge. A discussion guide and resource list prepared by “bullycide” expert C. J. Bott are included in the back matter.
Suicide Notes by Michael Thomas Ford
Fifteen-year-old Jeff wakes up on New Year’s Day to find himself in the hospital—specifically, in the psychiatric ward. Despite the bandages on his wrists, he’s positive this is all some huge mistake. Jeff is perfectly fine, perfectly normal; not like the other kids in the hospital with him.
But over the course of the next forty-five days, Jeff begins to understand why he ended up here—and realizes he has more in common with the other kids than he thought.
Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen
In 1967, after a session with a psychiatrist she’d never seen before, eighteen-year-old Susanna Kaysen was put in a taxi and sent to McLean Hospital. She spent most of the next two years in the ward for teenage girls in a psychiatric hospital as renowned for its famous clientele—Sylvia Plath, Robert Lowell, James Taylor, and Ray Charles—as for its progressive methods of treating those who could afford its sanctuary.
Kaysen’s memoir encompasses horror and razor-edged perception while providing vivid portraits of her fellow patients and their keepers. It is a brilliant evocation of a “parallel universe” set within the kaleidoscopically shifting landscape of the late sixties. Girl, Interrupted is a clear-sighted, unflinching document that gives lasting and specific dimension to our definitions of sane and insane, mental illness and recovery.
Prozac Nation: Young and Depressed in America by Elizabeth Wurtzel
Elizabeth Wurtzel writes with her finger on the faint pulse of an overdiagnosed generation whose ruling icons are Kurt Cobain, Xanax, and pierced tongues. Her famous memoir of her bouts with depression and skirmishes with drugs, Prozac Nation is a witty and sharp account of the psychopharmacology of an era
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath
The Bell Jar chronicles the crack-up of Esther Greenwood: brilliant, beautiful, enormously talented, and successful, but slowly going under — maybe for the last time. Sylvia Plath masterfully draws the reader into Esther’s breakdown with such intensity that Esther’s insanity becomes completely real and even rational, as probable and accessible an experience as going to the movies. Such deep penetration into the dark and harrowing corners of the psyche is an extraordinary accomplishment
I haven’t read these yet, but they’re on my list:
Project Semicolon: Your Story Isn’t Over by Amy Bleuel
Project Semicolon began in 2013 to spread a message of hope: No one struggling with a mental illness is alone; you, too, can survive and live a life filled with joy and love. In support of the project and its message, thousands of people all over the world have gotten semicolon tattoos and shared photos of them, often alongside stories of hardship, growth, and rebirth.
How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me: One Person’s Guide to Suicide Prevention by Susan Rose Blauner
An international epidemic, suicide has touched the lives of nearly half of all Americans, yet is rarely talked about openly. In this timely and important book, Susan Blauner breaks the silence to offer guidance and hope for those contemplating ending their lives — and for their loved ones.
A survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Blauner eloquently describes the feelings and fantasies surrounding suicide. In a direct, nonjudgmental, and loving voice, she offers affirmations and suggestions for those experiencing life-ending thoughts, and for their friends and family. Here is an essential resource destined to be the classic guide on the subject.
The Long Night: Readings and Stories to Help You through Depression by Jessica Kantrowitz
You’ve done what you can: you’ve seen your doctor, made an appointment with a therapist, picked up the prescription for the antidepressant and swallowed that first strange pill. But it can take four to eight weeks for the meds to start to work, and it might take two or more tries before you and your doctor find the ones that work best for you. When you’re in the midst of terrible depression, those weeks can feel like an eternity. You just want to feel better now. This book is for those who are in the long night of waiting. It does not promise healing or deliverance; it is not a guide to praying away the depression. It is simply an attempt to sit next to you in the dark while you wait for the light to emerge.
Reader suggestions:
Confessions of a Domestic Failure: A Humorous Book About a not so Perfect Mom by Bunmi Laditan
Recover in Color: 52 Recovery Lessons by Kathleen E. Yancosek
The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time by Alex Korb, PhD
The Other Side of Night: A Novel by Adam Hamdy
A Mind Restored: Finding Freedom from the Shame and Stigma of Mental Illness by Kimberly Muka Powers
They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera
Legends & Lattes: A Novel of High Fantasy and Low Stakes and Bookshops & Bonedust by Travis Baldree
Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things by Jenny Lawson
Steppenwolf: A Novel by Hermann Hesse
Rise from Darkness: How to Overcome Depression through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Positive Psychology: Paths Out of Depression Toward Happiness by Kristian Hall
Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in Your Mind by Joyce Meyer
Hyperbole and a Half: Unfortunate Situations, Flawed Coping Mechanisms, Mayhem, and Other Things That Happened by Allie Brosh
I’m Tired, Not Lazy: Recharge Your Life With The Power of Acceptance by Emily Roberts
What are your most helpful coping tools for depression?
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Jo (A Rose Tinted World) says
The Matt Haig book is one of my favourites. It is great to see his recovery. Some great recommendations here.
Dawn says
I will be following you. Depression, anxiety, grief, and suicidal tendencies are a huge part of why I started blogging. Thank you for such a great post.
Lisa | Handmade in Israel says
Thank you for sharing these reads. If they help just one more person to understand, then you have done a good thing. #TwinklyTuesday
Kate Holmes says
Thanks for compiling this list. I suffer from depression from time to time and the more posts are written about it the more we can all help each other. I have not read any of these and will be doing so one baby step at a time now #TwinklyTuesday
Patsy Burnette says
Thank you for these wonderful book suggestions on such a needy topic, Jennifer!
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Michelle says
Finally! Someone who actually understands what real depression is! Thank you so much for this book list. I’ll be looking for these this weekend.
April J Harris says
I know this post will help so many people, Jennifer! Thank you for sharing your own journey and struggles so openly and honestly, as well as sharing these wonderful resources. I appreciate you being a part of the Hearth and Soul Community. Thank you!
Jess says
Very intrigued about How to Stay Alive When Your Brain Is Trying to Kill You. I know that experience of having intrusive thoughts where you’re just like, “Yeah, I COULD hurt myself, but I COULD do a lot of things. Where is this coming from??” I’ve read a lot of self-helpy type books in my own recovery from suicidal thoughts, but never any specific to depression, strangely. So, thank you for sharing this list! I’m glad I found your blog. <3
Destiny says
Silent Souls Weeping is another great one. It explains how depression affects a persons faith and is really helpful for those who don’t have personal experience to understand.
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Tina at Mommynificent says
Thanks for sharing some of your experience with depression and this great list of books at Booknificent Thursday on Mommynificent.com!
Tina