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Staying Balanced

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September 26, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert 5 Comments

It was hard for me to learn how to balance when my kids were little – juggling all their needs while homeschooling and caring for the home, sometimes while my husband was deployed.

Lately, I find myself almost bored, lost with too much time and not enough to do.

I find myself thinking: shhh, slow down. To myself, to my kids.

My eldest is all on her own. My heart breaks a little with every struggle she faces.

My middle two are attending university this year with CCP. The first time they’ve ever attended a school! My heart is aflutter. I know they’ll do fine, but it’s all just so new. And new is often scary.

And then there was one.

My son is twelve and we anticipate a fun year as we move into high school homeschool work. He’s worried he will be lonely without his siblings! He has no desire for a co-op or group activities or field trips.

I’ve seen so many changes this last year in my kids. They need me less and less and that’s a good thing, but it is also bittersweet. I strive to teach them a healthy work-life balance – in spite of our society’s values and the other authorities in their lives.

There are so many opportunities everywhere that it’s sometimes hard to choose and narrow down the choices so we’re not overwhelmed.

It seems the expectations increase the older my kids get.

But we don’t have to follow the crowd and do everything that everyone else does.

Balancing Act

I want my kids to be healthy in mind and body – and having a busy schedule with work, school, and activities often does not allow for this. It seems only to get worse and busier as the kids get older. I struggle to find balance and to make time for them to eat well and sleep enough and be able to play.

Sleep Schedule

My kids seldom have to wake up early and we don’t have to fight over bedtimes. They’ve been homeschooled their whole lives. I have noticed their natural habits and I am thankful that I haven’t had to fight those normal rhythms.

We don’t have to go to bed early in order to wake up before dawn to catch a bus or stand in a drop-off line. There are no hours of silly homework or rushing to complete projects after dinner and before baths and bed.

My kids have never had to wake up early to study last minute or to complete an assignment before school because they have never attended school. They’ve never had deadlines or assignments or homework or tests.

They’re relaxed and less stressed than many of their peers who only know rushing, busyness, being tired from not enough sleep.

My two eldest daughters have jobs that sometimes require early wakeups or later hours on their schedule and it bothers me that it doesn’t have to be this way for young people. They don’t have to enter this world yet. They have chosen this and sometimes it’s hard waking up early or working late. We try to limit the teen jobs to fifteen hours a week since she started school.

I don’t do really well myself, staying up too late reading. I don’t like waking up to alarms and sometimes struggle in the mornings.

Really, we could all use a slowdown and rest more. We used to get along just fine without 24-hour stores and constant availability.

Naps are good. Rest time and down time and quiet time is needful.

Eating Schedule

We as a society struggle with eating healthy. Perhaps our busy schedules have something to do with that.

My kids eat when they’re hungry. They have a huge variety of healthy foods and some fun snacks and treats for whenever they want something.

Also, my kids can use the bathroom whenever they need to use it.

Rushing does not aid digestion. Sitting still all day, every day does not aid digestion.

I remember rushing out the door to meet the school bus while eating a poptart in the brisk morning air. I remember creeping through the lunch line for a carb-filled tray that had to be devoured in 15 minutes before heading back sit still and quiet in a classroom for three more hours. We never had water bottles and the hall water fountains either didn’t work well or the water was warm and bitter. I was constantly hungry and dehydrated.

So meal times are important to me. I want my kids to have fond memories of food and meals.

My kids have a hot breakfast every single morning.

My kids have a lovely leisurely lunch with lots of veggies.

We always have a sit-down dinner together with salad and lots of veggies.

I worry and struggle to make healthy family meals happen in spite of work and activities that constantly want to disrupt the schedule.

Play Schedule

As my kids get busier with their classes, work, and activities, I struggle to maintain some downtime for them. I want them to be kids as long as possible. I want them to play and have fun and be stress-free and worry-free.

There is plenty of time for adult things later. I want to hold on to my kids for as long as possible and protect their innocence and youthfulness.

I have tried to limit my kids’ activities so they don’t get overwhelmed. One does aerial gymnastics twice a week. One does ice skating and art. My son is on an elite baseball team. My second child has a part time job and we agreed to limit the hours to fifteen during school.

I don’t monitor screentime. I don’t have chore charts. We don’t take tests in our homeschool. We work together to get household needs accomplished. I help my kids study for their quizzes and tests.

I see so many ads and posts for tutoring and classes and courses and lessons and clubs and events. I know some families who sign their kids up for all of the things. Those children are surely exhausted, all the time. And we wonder why everyone has a disorder or mental illness? We don’t have to rush to keep up with other people who set false standards.

Babies don’t need reading or math tutors.

I want my kids to have time to play – to watch the movies, to create, to play games, get outside in nature, visit friends and festivals and amusement parks – before the rush of college and adulthood and needed jobs take hold.

Kids need time to play, time to rest, time just to be kids. While I don’t follow a strict schedule, I make time in our natural flow for meals, sleep and rest, and playing.

We all need to slow down.

I’m worried about their peers who always seem to be exhausted and rushed to the next thing.

Everything has become so unnatural.

We have replaced kids’ free time and outdoor playtime with classes indoors that are monitored by adults – teachers, coaches, nannies, babysitters, parents – tutoring sessions, sports training, music lessons, gymnastics and tumbling and parkour and ninja.

There is hardly a moment when kids have to themselves to make a decision or rest or paly naturally without supervision that they don’t know what they want without being told by an adult.

All the checklists we’re supposed to follow to prepare for college – standardized testing, scholarships, forms, meetings, sports, clubs, volunteering. We don’t have to do any of that. Everything will work out in the end no matter if we rush through it and stress about it or wait until the right timing.

I don’t want my kids so stressed out that they have no good memories of their youth.

It’s not a race.

The Holistic Psychologist

Resources:

  • The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté
  • Generation Sleepless: Why Tweens and Teens Aren’t Sleeping Enough and How We Can Help Them by Heather Turgeon and Julie Wright
  • The Sleep-Deprived Teen: Why Our Teenagers Are So Tired, and How Parents and Schools Can Help Them Thrive by Lisa L. Lewis
  • Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen
  • Motherwhelmed: Challenging Norms, Untangling Truths, and Restoring Our Worth to the World by Beth Berry
  • Books by Daniel J. Siegel
  • Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté
  • Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Laura Markham
  • Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life by Laura Markham
  • Jesus, the Gentle Parent: Gentle Christian Parenting by L.R. Knost
  • Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang 
  • Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey

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What Men and Women Should Know About Sex Therapy

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September 20, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert 1 Comment

Sex Therapy is a therapy that men and women can use to help resolve sex-related problems. Sex therapists can offer face-to-face or telehealth sessions. Sex therapy is a highly personal process. Before you start the therapy process, you should know what to expect. Most people will need several sessions. Some therapists may require more than one visit.

Sex therapy is a form of therapy for men and women.

Therapists use various techniques to help clients improve their sex lives and build intimacy. They may also assign “homework,” which includes reading material, use of sex devices such as bullet vibrator, and watching educational videos on sex and intimacy. Clients may also be asked to perform specific physical and emotional exercises during sessions. Success will depend on the client’s commitment to the therapy.

Sexual dysfunctions, including erectile dysfunction, are often treated through sex therapy. However, the condition is often rooted in underlying psychological issues and may result in pain during sex. While drugs can help with these problems, therapists can help individuals find solutions through counseling.

It can help resolve sex-related problems.

If you’re experiencing problems with intimacy, sex therapy can help. Sex therapists help you identify and resolve the causes of your sexual problems. While sex therapy doesn’t automatically improve sex, it can help you and your partner communicate and feel more comfortable. The sessions may include reading materials or “homework assignments” that address underlying issues. While some couples go to therapy together, individual therapy can be equally beneficial.

Sex therapy can benefit couples and individuals suffering from various problems, including low self-esteem, relationship stress, and past sexual trauma. It can also help couples improve communication skills and learn new sex-related communication strategies. And unlike many types of counseling, sexual therapy does not involve sex. However, if your partner refuses to participate, it’s important to know that your therapist can help you improve your communication skills.

It can be telehealth or face-to-face.

While telehealth may seem like the best option for sex therapy, there are downsides to both options. For example, fewer therapists are available in every city, and traveling can be expensive and require multiple subway transfers. However, telehealth eliminates many of these inconveniences. But a downside to telehealth is that some companies may hire therapists with less experience to cut costs.

Unlike telehealth, face-to-face sex therapy is still a face-to-face experience. Most therapists have a private consultation room to create a safe and secure client environment. However, you can also have your session online via video chat. So while the sessions are still face-to-face, there’s a certain distance. And since sex therapy is talk therapy, you shouldn’t expect to engage in physical contact or have sexual relations during your sessions.

It is a highly personal process.

While sex therapy has received a bad rap for many years, it is a very professional and legitimate process. Sex therapy helps people with sexual issues identify the causes of their problems and work towards a resolution. A therapist will work with each person to determine what is causing their issues and then help them work through them. While it may be embarrassing to talk about your private life with a stranger, a therapist will keep an objective and professional level during the session.

The first step in sex therapy is to find a therapist you can trust. If possible, choose someone who has training in this area. You should also choose someone who you feel comfortable talking to and who understands the issues you are facing. Sex therapy can take a long time and may involve several sessions. However, it should focus on the specific issue you are experiencing and not on generalizations about sexuality.

It is not covered by insurance.

Many health insurance plans do not cover the cost of sex therapy. Some insurance plans may not cover sex therapy but may cover massage. Others might withhold information about coverage until you make a claim. If you’re not sure if your policy covers sex therapy, call your insurer to find out.

Some plans will cover sex therapy if you have a co-occurring mental health condition. If you’re considering sex therapy as a treatment for an underlying mental health issue, check with your insurance company for details. Some companies cover couples therapy as well.

Sex therapy is an important part of psychological treatment. It helps clients change their behavior and attitudes inside and outside the bedroom. While some clients attend sex therapy sessions independently, the results are generally better when their partners are involved. It’s also an evidence-based form of therapy. Insurance companies might cover sex therapy if you have a diagnosable mental disorder, but many people want to improve their intimate relationships without being diagnosed with a mental illness. They may also feel uncomfortable involving their insurance company.

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7 Useful Tips in Looking For Gyms

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September 16, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert Leave a Comment

If you’re looking for a gym, there are several factors to consider. These factors include location, coaching, hours, and price. Having one close to your home increases your chances of getting to the gym regularly. In addition, a national chain likely has several locations throughout the city.

Location

Word of mouth is one of the best ways to find gyms in Bellevue, WA. This age-old marketing tactic is still effective because friends often share their experiences. If someone has had a negative experience at a gym, they will most likely not recommend it to their friends. However, if the experience is positive, they will tell others about it. Look for gyms with reliable employees and high-quality equipment.

A good gym should offer a variety of functional training equipment, including gymnastics rings, suspension trainers, core bags, and Swedish ladders. It should also have a freestyle training area, which can help you enhance your entire body through playful and dynamic warmups.

Hours

If you’re interested in getting in shape, you’ll want to know the hours of gyms in your area. Most gyms are busiest during the weekdays, but you can find quieter times over the weekends. Peak weekend hours tend to be after 4 PM and before 7 AM.

You’ll find that most gyms are crowded between mid-morning and late afternoon, though college gyms tend to be less busy. It would also be best if you kept in mind that these times may vary depending on what day of the week you’d like to go.

Coaching

When looking for a gym, it’s good to pay close attention to the variety of services offered. For example, are spin classes, kickboxing classes, trainers, smoothie bars, or massage rooms available throughout the day? If so, these facilities should advertise their services well and attract members.

Word-of-mouth referrals are a powerful marketing tool. You can ask friends and family to give their honest opinions about different gyms. If they have good experiences, they’ll tell others about it, increasing their likelihood of joining the gym. However, if they’ve had a bad experience, they may be less likely to recommend it. Good gyms will encourage members to share their experiences, especially if they’re satisfied with the quality of service and equipment.

Price

Price is an important consideration when looking for a gym. The right price depends on the gym’s services and the area that it serves. A few things to consider when determining the price are the location, the number of members, and the hours offered. In addition, some gyms charge more than others, so make sure you know what your budget will allow.

A gym that is too expensive can turn off potential clients. Prices should be somewhere in between. Consider the demographic of the target audience. If your gym targets older clients, you can afford to charge higher than a gym that targets a younger crowd. Older clients, in particular, may need more personalized training. This may require specialized personal trainers and higher fees for special equipment.

Getting a feel for a gym

Walking around a gym’s facilities is an excellent way to get a feel for its operation. But first, look for the equipment you’ll use the most. For instance, if you like to use dumbbells, it’s helpful if the gym has more than one set.

You also want to check out how friendly and welcoming the gym is. Unfortunately, many gyms lack this element, and it can affect your motivation during your workouts.

Checking out a gym’s website

Checking out a gym’s website is a good way to learn more about their services. There are many different styles and designs that you can find. Some websites are designed with clean design and good typography, while others are more traditional. A gym’s website should be easy to navigate and include the most important details. A well-designed website will also include a call-to-action button and ample white space.

Before signing up, be sure to read the contract carefully. Contracts for gyms can be long and complex. It’s essential to read them closely to avoid nasty surprises later. You should also be aware of the hours that the gym is open. Many people assume that the gym will be open 24 hours a day.

Asking around

Asking around is one of the best ways to find a good gym. You’ll be able to find out about new facilities and whether they’re convenient for your schedule. In addition, it can be helpful to find out how many members a gym has and whether it offers the classes and equipment you want. Moreover, you’ll be able to find out about the staff’s friendliness and availability.

Before signing up for a contract, ask the gym if they offer any free trials. Many offer free weeks or tours to new members, or you can take a free fitness class before you make a final decision. If unsatisfied with the service, you can always move on to the next gym.

 

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Electric Vehicles: Why Should You Consider Purchasing One?

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September 13, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert Leave a Comment

Owning a vehicle has become a necessity in the contemporary world. You can purchase a car for different reasons, including more accessible family transportation, company requirements, farming needs, and other uses. Nevertheless, you must ensure you know how to pick the best model for your needs.

The use of gasoline automobiles has been around for quite a while. Still, the vehicle manufacturing industry transformations have seen the introduction of cars using alternative fuel, such as electric power. As explained in this article, it is vital to understand some of the reasons for getting an electric vehicle.

Caring for the Environment

The world has experienced significant environmental changes over the last three decades. Carbon emissions are ranked among the most prevalent adverse effects on the environment—and a high percentage of these carbon footprints come from motor vehicles.

Purchasing an electric car significantly reduces your carbon footprint. These vehicles omit burning fuel from machines that use petrol, diesel, and other gasoline types. In fact, lower carbon emissions are among the top reasons to consider getting an electric transportation machine.

A Great Investment

Purchasing a vehicle is one of the larger investments you’ll make in life. This is why it’s important to make sure electric vehicles are right you and your budget.

Electric cars in the modern world possess a lot of value as more manufacturers aim to promote these types of models. Additionally, electric vehicles can save you money in other ways. Since they do not require gas, you won’t need to spend money to fill up the tank, just when it requires a charge, which you can do at your home.

Lower Maintenance Costs

Electric cars run on an effective and efficient electric motor that requires fewer repairs overall. Reports have revealed that maintaining an electric vehicle costs less than vehicles using other fuel types as these motors have fewer parts than the traditional engines and are exposed to less damage.

Enhanced Performance

One of the crucial considerations to make when purchasing a car is how it performs. After all, you’ll likely be driving this vehicle well into the future, and it should work for you!

Electric vehicles have a history of faster acceleration, smooth gear changing, and the ability to reach higher speeds. This is great for any driver, whether you travel in the city or on the open road.

Many Varieties to Choose From

Variety is another benefit of buying an EV. You can choose any vehicle type depending on your needs, preferences, tastes, and lifestyle. With advancements in the industry, electric sedans, crossovers, SUVs, and even trucks are available, giving you the power of choice at the dealership.

Is an Electric Vehicle Right for You?

Electric cars are gaining popularity globally as time goes on, and the best way to determine if it’s right for you is to drive one for yourself. If you’re looking for a new way to drive, the points above showcase just some of the top reasons to consider an EV—now it’s up to you to make the final decision! 

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I Tried Therapy

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September 12, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert 6 Comments

Well, I tried therapy. Again.

I’ve come to the conclusion that therapy is just not for me.

I’ve tried so many different therapists and they were all worthless or harmful, never helpful.

I refuse to waste my time and money on a therapist when I have read and meditated and prayed and learned and changed and healed my own self over the years.

I know there are different kinds of psychotherapy, but either the therapists I’ve been exposed to weren’t very educated or experienced, or just chose to use certain aspects of talk therapy.

My first taste of therapy was when I was twenty years old.

I was locked in hospital for about a week and forced into group therapy after my suicide attempt. Then I was assigned to outpatient therapy – both group and individual for another week or more. It wasn’t helpful. I was scared and at the mercy of ignorant “professionals” who didn’t know me, didn’t know my history, didn’t know my parents. I was blamed for my own distress and for being an ungrateful only child to my parents. I was medicated against my will on Prozac, and that didn’t go well, serving to make me even more wary of meds to the point that I don’t want to try them anymore.

I tried Christian therapists during my first two marriages.

This is what the church, the elders, his parents and family and friends, the husbands themselves told me I must do. Secular therapy was a slippery slope and led to humanism and independence. It was all very harmful. I was told never to show anger so as to be a good, submissive wife. I was told to be available for sex at any time to ensure my husband wouldn’t stray. I was told to endure abuse and pray harder. I was supposed to echo requests to ensure communication was improved.

My first husband is a sex addict, porn addict, pedophile, abuser of his nieces and our daughter. He has abused his second wife too. His entire family protects him and they’re all in denial.

My second husband admitted he had been fired three weeks ago in the therapist’s office and I had to bite my tongue and cheeks so I wouldn’t physically attack him, I was so enraged at the deceit of still getting up and dressing and disappearing for so many hours each day – for three weeks – and his cowardice at having to tell me in front of her, in the safety of her office. He later accused me of contracting HIV and passing it onto him, though he was miraculously and instantly healed during a church service.

A thing I am thinking about today is how when abusers get therapy that isn’t specifically centered around the fact that they are abusive and need to change their behavior (which usually requires a therapist who specializes in this), it often just makes them more adept abusers. Therapy is generally focused on helping the patient achieve their own goals. If a therapist helps someone develop strategies for navigating interpersonal conflict but doesn’t clock that the nature of the conflict is their patient abusing people, they will become an abuse coach.

Annalee

Everybody talks about men and abusers needing therapy but few people acknowledge the frequent and real opportunities for abusers to weaponize therapy language and their therapist against you.

Jane Shui

My sins, faults, shortcomings were constantly addressed while men were upheld as incapable of doing any wrong and never being held responsible for their own actions or inactions.

I still fall into these mind traps since it was drilled into my head for so many years from so many sources.

The military medical community won’t even serve their own military members, much less spouses or dependents.

There is no continuity of care in the military. We are forced to move around so frequently and even though there is surely a database of our medical history, it is still hard to start over every few years.

When we were stationed in Hawaii, my eldest was “diagnosed” with ADHD at age eight or so, we were required as a family to attend therapy with an active duty military member. It was soon obvious that these doctors had an agenda. They put my daughters on meds that suppressed her appetite severely. They threatened us with abuse for homeschooling and coerced us to put her in the base DOD elementary school. My husband was worried his career would be at stake – and no matter if anyone says otherwise, it is absolutely a thing that spouses’ and dependents’ issues and behavior do reflect a military member’s career options. It was a miserable time, frightening and disheartening. After one month, I defied everyone and removed my child from the school and stopped the meds, and we returned to homeschooling and a healthier lifestyle. It took me years for us to heal from those few months of meds and indoctrination. I became further jaded about the medical and mental health community.

We were stationed in Germany for three years when we most desperately needed some assistance when our eldest child was a young teen and we couldn’t really get any help with medical or mental health issues.

We’ve tried to see several therapists now that we are back State-side, in Ohio.

I was encouraged to get a free app sponsored by the Air Force to help me learn to breathe and meditate. I was told to fill in a chart with a support plan when the entire issue was that I do not have any support. I have been offered numerous pills to alleviate stress, anxiety, depression. All bandaids that don’t even scratch the surface of military spouse mental health issues or my history of trauma, abuse, and mental distress.

I was required to meet with my PCM for referral to the behavioral specialist for three different appointments before then being referred to an in-network off-base mental health professional. The mental health professionals at the base hospitals and clinics are only available to military members, not spouses, and they only really discuss PTSD, not any issues with relationships or anything unrelated to the military job.

Getting referrals for mental health is so complicated and time consuming and there is no guarantee the therapist will be a good fit. There are six-month-plus waiting lists everywhere. It’s so much time, stress, money, and paperwork to shop around.

Two of my kids have experienced some trauma and need some mental health assistance. One therapist completely undermined my authority and suggested my child ask us to attend public school, then she would not follow up with me about my complaints, but just completely ended all communication. We were referred to an outpatient daily facility for a few weeks and the therapist, who seemed ok at first, shamed me into buying a guitar to help my child heal better – that has since gone untouched. Thankfully my two kids have found therapists we all trust and respect now, but it’s been such a hard road.

After being encouraged by my kids, I tried therapy – once again.

My kids have concerns that I need a therapist to continue working through some of my issues. They also were curious if I could get tested for autism.

We have contacted everyone in the Dayton-Cincinnati area and no one will perform autism testing on an adult or teen.

After many weeks of being on the waiting list, I was called to make an appointment.

I went with just a little bit of hope, but not too much. I typed out a timeline to save us time and help her remember who’s who in my life, so I didn’t have to constantly repeat myself and clarify.

First impressions matter. Her office looked like a social media prop or magazine spread – all pink and gold with plants by the window and a dozen or more of the “proper” social warrior bestselling books in tidy stacks on various surfaces. It was just so staged. The therapist earned a Psy.D., but she looked like a child. I had specifically requested someone older, not someone young enough that I could be her mother or teacher. Maybe she just looks young. She’s only worked in this field for about five years, so not a whole lot of experience and this is her second clinic, so I wonder why she left the first one. Maybe it shouldn’t matter, but I wonder if she’s married or even has had a long-term adult relationship or has any children. How can she even understand my issues then?

She was quite abrupt at the first meeting, explaining the cancellation policy rather severely (I kinda get it: don’t be late or skip appointments, but wow). She seemed very aloof and cold and clinical. I tried so hard to keep an open mind. She liked my outline and it saved time at intake. She was impressed that I finished my master’s degree despite all my issues – ha! She asked me why am I even still with my husband as she shooed me out the door at the 45-minute mark. So I thought about how harsh that question is for two weeks. I almost didn’t go back.

I had told myself I will go to at least two appointments before I make up my mind.

I went to four appointments! I figured the first meeting was just intake and not a real example of what it would be like and I really, really wanted to give her a chance.

I spent almost the entire second appointment defending my reasons for staying in my third marriage. It’s obvious that she didn’t think before asking me why and she stumbled over apologizing and saying she didn’t mean it that way.

This man is not abusive. He’s neglectful. He’s often thoughtless. I feel I change and evolve and grow while he is stagnant. There are way worse sins than being boring. We have history. We have duty. We share eighteen years of highs, lows, depths, cross-country and overseas moves, deployments, births, deaths, sickness, pain, joy. How can anyone understand or judge?

At the end, she asked what I wanted to work on most at the second appointment, and after these last few months, it seems most relevant to get an objective view about my parents’ ongoing tantrums and abuse and their ignoring me when they imagine I have slighted them. I also mentioned some marital concerns. And of course, I have doubts that I am a good enough mother.

The only helpful comment is that I should let my eldest find her own way now that she’s almost 22 and on her own. I have mixed feelings about this because I cannot just watch her destroy her future.

She all but scoffed at my husband’s issues, because surely I can see he has PTSD and I should be more understanding. OK, wow.

She doesn’t offer much insight about my parents and their behavior. She suggests that a superficial relationship might be better than any relationship at all. Really?!

After sitting with those two statements echoing in my head for two weeks, I just canceled this week’s appointment. I am hurt and confused that these are the only takeaways I have from four appointments. I feel like I just rambled on and on about pretty much nothing and how could she even follow what I said when she didn’t take any notes? There was no plan, no suggested reading, no skills to practice. I don’t need to pay someone to listen to me drone on when they offer nothing. She is not personable and I don’t need someone who’s touchy-feely, and I don’t want hugs, but she is just wooden. She made it a point at the beginning of each meeting to find something about my appearance to compliment and it just felt so scripted. Maybe I’m expected to suck it up and push through for a few months, but I just don’t have the energy or heart space for that.

I should just take more neglect and abuse and this is the best I can ever hope for?

I really do not want to waste more time or money being told that I am the problem and no one else has any responsibility at all to have a healthy relationship.

It’s hard when everyone around me is in denial that there’s anything wrong and they only desire toxic positivity and refuse to work through anything or admit any past shadows.

What even is the point of therapy? Mostly, it is to help people fit well into society. I absolutely do not want to fit in when society is so ill – racism, sexism, capitalism, for-profit healthcare. Often, therapy is to heal from horrible trauma, but I have done a lot of that on my own and I don’t see anything a professional can do that I haven’t found for myself.

I’m also thankful that I have time and money to find therapists for my two children who need and want it and to have tried it for myself, even thought I don’t think it’s a good option for me. I worry so much about people who don’t have resources and access to mental health help. We are a sick society.

We hear constantly: “Go to therapy!” but therapy fails so many individuals and families. It’s not always the best answer or only way.

Books That Have Helped Me:

  • Gabor Maté
  • John Gottman
  • Harriet Lerner
  • Susan Cain
  • Elaine N. Aron
  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk 
  • Jesus, the Gentle Parent by LR Knost
  • Motherwhelmed by Beth Berry
  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

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The pillars of traditional healing were 1) connection to clan and the natural world; 2) regulating rhythm through dance, drumming, and song; 3) a set of beliefs, values, and stories that brought meaning to even senseless, random trauma; and 4) on occasion, natural hallucinogens or other plant-derived substances used to facilitate healing with the guidance of a healer or elder. It is not surprising that today’s best practices in trauma treatment are basically versions of these four things. Unfortunately, few modern approaches use all four of the options well. The medical model overfocuses on psychopharmacology (4) and cognitive behavioral approaches (3). It greatly undervalues the power of connectedness (1) and rhythm (2).

In Western psychiatry we like to separate them, but that misses the true essence of the problem. We are chasing symptoms, not healing people.

Dr. Bruce D. Perry in What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
https://twitter.com/profsamperry

Something missing from “go to therapy” discourse is that most therapists are not very good?

Raquel Benedict

On privilege and therapy. People often ask me if I go to therapy, I don’t. Not because I don’t think therapy is helpful. I know it is. It just didn’t work for me. A THREAD:

Jo Leuhmann

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What You Need To Know About Treatments for Drug Addiction

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September 9, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert Leave a Comment

Drug addiction spreads widely among the United States population. Although substance abuse disorders affect many, the recovery from craving pharmaceuticals can feature individualized options to meet the needs of those who seek help. Knowing this can aid those who face challenges with drug dependence find the assistance they need to control their habit and manage the addiction for life.

People choose to take too many medications for various reasons. For instance, they may find life situations involving work or relationships difficult and thus turn to pharmaceuticals to soothe themselves. Unfortunately, the brain becomes desensitized to medicines, and it takes consuming more of their preferred remedy to create the comfort they expect from the harmful substances. Over time, increased quantities often get consumed. Consequently, if you or a family member find that substance abuse disorders have taken control of your lives, many find it beneficial to turn to professionals to learn more about what you need to know about addiction treatment options.

Inpatient or Outpatient Services

When people struggle with drug habits, a detox LA center treatment facility can provide the assistance and support needed for recovery. For example, choosing an outpatient program makes sense if your schedule does not allow inpatient care or if you cannot leave your work or home environment for long. In addition, an outpatient program can offer counseling sessions to guide your desire to change harmful behaviors to healthy ones. Conversely, inpatient treatment options might benefit those with longer-lasting or deeper-seated addictions. Utilizing this scenario, you spend twenty-four hours a day at a treatment center, and while there, you focus daily on altering behavior and healing in a nurturing environment.

Change Begins With Detoxification From Drugs 

Many find the detoxification process best accomplished with the help of medical and behavioral professionals. Detoxification goals include removing all illicit medicines from the patient’s bodily systems. However, doing so can cause discomfort for some. Thus doctors might provide prescription medications in conjunction with additional treatments to help ease the symptoms until the body tests negative for the problematic medicines. 

Behavior Modification Continues Through Counseling

Many people with drug dependencies find the support they need when participating in group and individual guidance sessions. Several counseling therapies have proven to benefit those with substance abuse issues, including cognitive behavioral and 12-step therapies, among many others. In addition, counselors who specialize in helping those with addictions can tailor treatments to suit patients’ unique needs, giving them the specific benefit they need to change their behaviors for the long term. 

Aftercare Offers Support for Continued Success

Although many work their way through rehabilitation programs, some find it difficult to maintain sobriety after the initial success of abstinence from illicit pharmaceuticals. Continuing to meet regularly in an environment that encourages the desired behaviors gives those with unhealthy obsessions the support they need over time to remain drug-free.

Drug addiction can occur rapidly or progress over long periods. However, once people choose to get clean from harmful pharmaceuticals, rehabilitation systems can provide the boost needed to bring substance abusers to act to bring the changes to their lives that will lead them to an enduring recovery.

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Junkyard Joe Comicbook Release to Benefit Veterans

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September 9, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert Leave a Comment

From the same comic book brand that brought the major success of Spawn, Image Comics will now be launching Junkyard Joe in October 2022, released with a special first issue in stock black and white to commemorate the sacrifice of military veterans over the decades. All proceeds will be donated to Veterans Aid as well as the National Coalition for Homeless Veterans for a real-world positive impact.

While most comic books involve a caped or costumed superhero creating superhero fatigue these days, Junkyard Joe takes a different spin with a storyline rooted in the Vietnam Wartime period. Characters are directly tied to soldier lives and stories as well as dealing with an overarching umbrella path of fighting an evil foe that just won’t be resolved with simple efforts alone.

The project is personal and a tribute to relatives who fought in World War II. The Junkyard Joe team includes Geoff Johns, Gary Frank, and Brad Anderson, working as a team in crafting the storyline, artwork, and overall packaging. As a partnership between Image Comics and Mad Ghost Productions, Junkyard Joe is expected to carve a bit of a unique path and fresh approach in a market that is a bit stuffed with costumed heroes fighting outer space or time-jumping enemies galore. 

The financing of the project will generate at least $2 per issue donated to the veteran organizations above to help applicants with everything from housing to medical support to education and retraining. With a grandfather who served in World War II, Geoff Johns emphasizes the feelings of the Junkyard Joe team when he reflects on how profoundly the conflict shaped his grandfather’s views on the world afterwards. To simply be able to help veterans through the comic book artwork and project is at least some small way of saying thanks from the team. 

Veterans from foreign wars struggle every day in society, spending years trying to assimilate as well as deal with memories and mental health issues from their time and service. Some are unable to continue without support and help, with depression and suicide real problems where a safety net is unavailable. Veteran organizations work tirelessly to avoid these tragedies that occur daily across the country otherwise. The Junkyard Joe project is one small part of a bigger effort, both recognizing the sacrifices people have made for their nation as well as the help still needed every day.

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Burr Oak Review

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September 5, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert 3 Comments

We have been wanting to get out and explore some natural wonders of Ohio and I’m so glad we chose Burr Oak!

We haven’t gone on a real trip in so long.

There have been significant obstacles to our traveling these last few years: various unexpected expenses, sprained ankles and a broken leg!, COVID restrictions, my husband’s retirement and new job, extracurricular classes, my son’s elite baseball schedule, and my teen’s part-time job.

While waiting for a time of calm, I realized I just had to jump at a weekend that looked somewhat open and have my people ask off work for a few days.

We rented a cabin at Burr Oak National Park.

My husband actually called them to book the reservation after I had trouble with their online site. They have lots of deals for veterans and teachers and we got a free night for staying three nights. There are fun packages too.

We drove through Hocking Hills and hit three major sites on the way to our cabin.

The cabins are newly remodeled and worked fine for us.

One bedroom with a queen bed and another bedroom with two bunk sets. The one bathroom was small but it worked out. We never have enough towels and there was nowhere to really hang them.

There’s a lovely screened in back porch with a little cast iron bistro table and two chairs and I ate my breakfast our there every morning.

We brought some basics to make meals just like we eat at home. I brought my rice cooker, water cooker and teapot for tea, and my favorite frying pan and knives. My husband brought his pour-over for his coffee. We brought olive oil, an onion, minced garlic, butter, and salt, pepper, and Italian spice grinders. I now know to bring lemon juice next time. We missed it.

I packed coolers with marinated meats for the grill and zucchini from our garden. We had burgers and dogs with chips, Asian steak and rice, and chicken breasts with boiled potatoes.

We brought room temp farm eggs from our egg lady, bacon and sausage, and pancake mix for breakfasts.

The kitchen was ok. I don’t mind hand washing dishes. The stove and oven worked great. There weren’t any spatulas and we don’t like plastic cups. There was no bakeware so I had to buy some aluminum pans.

We went to the little Kroger in the nearby town of Glouster and bought sponges and cups and spatulas. We got fixings for sandwiches and salad and donuts.

We rented a pontoon and kayaks. Neither my kids nor my husband had ever been boating and they all loved it! They are first come, first served, so it’s best to get to the rental dock early. We got the last pontoon and kayaks our second day – whew!

The lake is lovely and easy to navigate for beginners. The lodge had a beautiful view from the deck and from the water.

We saw so many herons – blue and green! We saw ducks and turtles. The American lilies were in bloom. We even saw an osprey dive down for a fish!

Tori and I kayaked all over the lake, and then we met up with my husband and other two kids in the pontoon for lunch.

We were so tickled by this picnic table right in the lake by a tiny little sandy beach. It was a perfect spot to rest for a bit.

Akantha and Alex wanted to try the kayaks and they realized very quickly how much work it is!

We were all so excited to see the American water lilies in bloom. They smell heavenly and are a lovely source of food for their lotus pods with seeds, and their roots.

The lily pads are HUGE. Like humongous, some almost a yard across. They float but are attached to their tuber root down in the mud.

The white lilies have long stalks above the water.

The pink lilies have shorter stalks and there is another much smaller lily in among the big ones that might be a different species.

Tori caught the only fish from the pontoon, when we anchored near the lilies. She was proud of this catfish and I taught them how to remove it without getting stung – by wrapping him in a towel. He was a feisty bugger.

I used to fish from boats and shore at Lake Allatoona every summer with my Aunt Betty and she taught me everything she knew.

Our last evening, we fished off the little dock by the lodge and Alex caught fish after fish – all little ones but he was so happy!

While we ate our dinners in our cabin, I took the kids to the lodge restaurant for cake after dinner and we got to enjoy the view and sunset. There’s a full bar and the bartender is just lovely. The wait staff gets a little overwhelmed. The menu has pizza and barbecue and apparently a lovely breakfast bar on weekends.

We enjoyed our short time at Burr Oak and it was a lovely respite after COVID restrictions and isolation and a last hurrah before the hustle and bustle of autumn.

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Hocking Hills

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September 5, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert 3 Comments

I have wanted to see Hocking Hills since before we even moved to Ohio. So, about six or more years now.

It’s just far enough away that we didn’t think we could swing it in a day trip. Three hours there, hiking all day, then three hours home? Whew!

I have looked to no avail for a cabin to rent that didn’t break the bank and could house all of us. I prefer to have a kitchen and separate bedrooms instead of renting two hotel rooms and it’s usually cheaper. I’ve seen so many cabins for 4, but so few for 5 or more. And all the cabins book up really fast and I couldn’t figure out how to plan that far ahead with our busy schedules.

There have been significant obstacles to our traveling these last few years: various unexpected expenses, sprained ankles and a broken leg!, COVID restrictions, my husband’s retirement and new job, extracurricular classes, my son’s elite baseball schedule, and my teen’s part-time job.

I will say that traveling with teens and older kids is so much fun and I love that they’re independent and don’t need me as constantly as when they were younger.

Luckily, I found a cabin for a long weekend at Burr Oak, and we planned to drive out early and hit some major Hocking Hills sites before checking in.

I recommend downloading or screenshotting maps since cell service is spotty in the area.

We parked at three trail heads to easily access the sites.

Ash Cave

The parking lot was very tight and full of deep pot holes full of water.

There were only permanent portapotties.

There is a very nice pavilion with grills.

The path to the cave is paved and signs say one-way, but if you have a stroller or accessibility issues, you have to return this way.

It was really exciting when we caught our first view of the magnitude of this rocky cave from the path.

We climbed up the stairs and returned on the treacherous high path through the woods.

Cedar Falls

The paved parking lot is nice at Cedar Falls trailhead.

There are real bathrooms that seem pretty well-kept.

The wide walkway was really beautiful and full of ferns and mushrooms. There was one big muddy stretch and we had to climb up and over to the side by some rocks and tree roots or risk getting completely muddy and stuck.

The views were really beautiful and we took a long time here looking at all the plants and bugs.

Old Man’s Cave

This site is right off the huge paved parking area for the Hocking Hills visitor center.

The shop wasn’t great. There are fun activities inside for little kids. There are great bathrooms. There are park rangers with maps and info at a desk. It’s a pretty center.

The trailheads weren’t well-marked and we wanted the quickest option since we were tired and this was our last stop.

To be honest, this was disappointing after seeing Ash Cave and Cedar Falls.

We could almost view it from the parking lot. We walked the short way in to get some pictures and went right back to our car. I mean, it’s pretty, but we were glad it was our last stop and we loved the other sites so much more.

Hocking Hills is a beautiful region and I would love to see the leaves in autumn. We hope to return to see some other sites now that we are more familiar with the area.

We stayed at a Burr Oak cabin and that was cost effective and easy for us this time around.

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Succeeding in College

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August 29, 2022 By Jennifer Lambert 12 Comments

My middle two kids began university this week with CCP. They’re commuting to a local university for a three classes for the very first time. They’re 15 and 16 years old. They’ve never attended school before!

While on one hand I feel that I prepared them well for post-high school opportunities, on the other hand, I am terrified that I missed some huge important task or skill that we will have to struggle to make up for that might make their lives difficult.

I lie awake at night checking off my list of what I want them to know.

My eldest did CCP and a year or so of university before COVID, then the school faculty and staff went on strike and she quit rather than do online classes. She may go back someday or she may not. While I do feel I prepared her well, I also know there were some gaps, and our relationship suffered. She didn’t want my help and I was desperate to give it. I have regrets.

I am a first generation college graduate. It was a struggle for me to navigate that world and I feel I missed out on a whole lot due to lack of experience, knowledge, support. I store up information to impart to my kids so they know what to expect.

My husband came from academic parents and both his sisters are teachers. His middle sister’s husband is also a teacher. They all have master’s degrees, as do I. I expect our kids to fare pretty well in the academic world and possibly get graduate degrees.

College Tips for Success

Read the syllabus. Honestly. Keep up with assignments and don’t fall behind. That’s the most of it.

Class Participation

My kids have gotten multiple emails from their uni and there are notes in each of their course syllabi about participating in class for a percentage of their grade.

Some of this is just showing up on time and staying in class and paying attention.

Some is actively participating in class discussion, asking questions, etc.

Yes, it can be uncomfortable, but it is important to get that 10% of the grade and to learn how to effectively communicate.

Also, please keep phones silent or off and away during class time! It’s rude to eat or be on phones during class.

Study Skills

My homeschooled kids have never taken a test nor really had to practice study skills, so we are taking a crash course on note taking and how to manage quizzes and exams.

I realize most of middle and high school involves just learning how to learn and how to study, all those questions at the ends of chapters and vocabulary lists to define – busy work.

I explained to my kids that any questions in their textbooks are study opportunities and they should complete those and also write outlines of the assigned chapters.

There are several notetaking options that are helpful. I like outlines and the Cornell method.

Some professors prefer the students listen to the lecture and participate in discussion while others encourage note-taking during class.

My kids took their first quiz and aced it and are taking great notes, according to the student instructors. They’re excited about the homework assignments and are enjoying classes!

Study Tips

  • Pomodoro Technique: The key to avoiding burnout is to study for no longer than 25 minutes, then take a five-minute break. Repeat this four times and then take a 30-minute break.
  • Record yourself reading your notes aloud and listen to the recording multiple times leading up to an exam.
  • Using different colored note cards for concepts and vocabulary and placing them all over your living space or use in a game format.
  • Use Apple Pencil to enter text in Notes, Notability, OneNote, or Scribble apps

Time Management

Be realistic about how early to get up and how late to stay in class. We chose the earliest class at 10 AM and latest ends about 1:30. There are also labs and study sessions that eat up a lot of time online or in person.

Everything is online now. It’s so different than when I attended university. There’s a server storing all the course info and it propagates to a handy calendar.

I encourage my kids to do a little bit each day for each course so they don’t get overwhelmed or fall behind. Studying and reading and completing homework takes up a lot of time, but chunking it into smaller bites makes it more manageable.

Bigger assignments can be chunked into smaller bites too. Outlining and rough drafts before the final essay.

Social activities, extracurriculars, and part-time jobs are important, but maybe need to take a backseat to the academics for a couple weeks until the schedule feels more comfortable.

Setting priorities helps to alleviate anxiety and fear of missing out.

Communication

It’s very important to keep up with communication. The school, professors, student assistant instructors, and others send out emails every day with important information.

I had my kids get the Outlook app on their devices with their university emails and encourage them to check it every morning.

Professors are usually great about replying to emails. Ask questions! Get clarification! Most professors want you to succeed and encourage active communication via email or office hours.

It’s also useful to share contact info with classmates for emergencies or help.

Being proactive is a must. Of course, we can’t help it if we get sick, but missing classes can be a problem. Most professors understand but require a doctor’s note after a couple missed classes. This is not the time nor place for the adage, “It’s better to ask forgiveness than permission.”

It’s important for the students to learn how to communicate in an adult world. Parents can’t jump in and help anymore.

Using Services

Attend the study group sessions.

Get familiar with the writing lab.

Use the tutoring services.

Learn how to navigate the library.

These services exist to help students and they are usually free and open to anyone attending classes.

Some universities even offer mental health professional services to students for a small fee, and that’s often cheaper and easier than the usual copays. There are also disability offices and waivers that may be helpful.

Stay Healthy

Eating well and getting enough sleep can sometimes be more difficult with a busy schedule.

Since my kids are commuting, I get up earlier to make sure they have a good breakfast. It’s unusual for us to have alarms and it’s been a bit rough.

I make and pack snacks and sandwiches three days a week when they have longer days. Here are some of our favorite lunch storage options.

We have lunch together on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

We all still have dinners together.

I am concerned about purchasing meal plans when and if my kids go away to college in 2-3 years. Also, packing lots and lots of snacks and quick meals and hydrating drinks to keep in their dorms. I’ve also read about horror stories of moldy AC units and on-campus restaurants being closed.

Packing raincoats and umbrellas, even a change of clothes, and extra period products in the car for emergencies is a good idea too.

It’s hard having our kids growing up and away and becoming young adults. I feel they’re ready even if I still try to anticipate any little thing and long to help.

I joined a parent support group on Facebook that has lots of info and question/answer for parents of students at the university my kids attend. It’s helpful and I’ve learned a lot of things I wouldn’t have thought about.

School Supplies my College Kids Love:

  • LED Page Magnifier
  • Reading Guide Highlight Strips
  • Page Magnifying Lens
  • Post-it Flags and Tabs
  • Post-it Notes
  • Transparent Sticky Notes
  • Sharpie Highlighters
  • BIC Velocity Max Mechanical Pencil
  • Notebooks: Bono Vintage and Mad Hatter Stationeries

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