Do you have issues in your house with too much stuff?
Do you struggle with keeping the house tidy and neat?
Do you want more, more, more?
Try minimizing for a simpler, more peaceful life.
If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them as half as much money. ~Abigail Van Buren
I’m not advocating for getting rid of all your stuff.
I’ve been to some homes and the people seem to have next to nothing by choice and that’s also stressful when there’s nowhere to sit and the rooms are stark and empty and echoey.
Your home doesn’t have to have a Scandinavian or Asian decor to be peaceful and clutter-free.
A home shouldn’t be sterile.
I always have piles of books – from the library, that I’m reading, that I’m going to read. I do continuously purge books as we outgrow them.
Finding a healthy balance of a home with peace and beauty while having storage for the things we love is a challenge.
I grew up with parents and my grandma buying me almost anything I wanted. But it was because that was the only way they knew how to show love. My grandma made up for the poor relationship she had with my father by showering me with gifts all throughout my childhood and I only saw her maybe two or three times a year. She passed when I was a teenager. My parents totally bought into the Big 80’s idea that more stuff equaled status and power and influence. They bought new cars every three years. My mother has shoes in every single color and clothes in her closet with tags still on them. She would hide her clothing purchases from my father. She has at least four closets full of clothing she will most likely never wear.
I blew all the money I made at my first jobs in retail and restaurants. I didn’t think about saving any of it. I never learned about good financial choices in school or at home.
I never learned the value of anything.
I spent most of my early adulthood blowing money on unimportant things, fighting debt, and learning to budget.
I still struggle. I’m still paying off debt. It seems every time we get close, there’s an emergency to set us back.
I want my children to learn the value of things better than I was taught.
We go through massive purges of our stuff every few years as we move. We’re a military family and we’re constantly re-evaluating our stuff. Our kids are growing up. They need fewer things for homeschool and playing.
We’re all maturing. We need less and less stuff to be happy. With fewer things, we’re all more stress-free. It’s easier to clean up when there’s not so much to be messy. There are fewer arguments and fewer hassles about toys and things.
I’m not into organization porn.
The gospel of minimalism, as preached by bloggers, chat rooms, and Facebook groups, is growing more nebulous as the movement of capitalist austerity—austerity as choice and aesthetic—picks up steam…Spareness is the lot of have-nots; minimalism is only aesthetic when it’s a choice. Minimalism critiques extravagance without condemning the wealth itself, making it a doctrine of the rich, for the rich. It’s the “classiest” version of inconspicuous consumption, one that at its core houses sanctimonious self-abnegation.
Aditi Natasha Kini
While I like the clothes folding method from Marie Kondo, I get anxiety thinking about getting rid of anything that doesn’t “spark joy” this very moment. I have regrets of some items we’ve purged over the years. I did the closet trick a few years ago and it helped to downsize clothing. I’ve also lost some weight the last couple years. It’s actually upsetting not to be able to fit into favorite clothes anymore.
I’ve watched The Minimalists. I see the rise of the tiny house movement and I wonder how long that will last. Most of us don’t come from generational wealth nor do our families own land or property where we can just park our trailer and live rent free.
Minimalism is becoming a culture clash. Westerners see the hustle and want to detach from it, somehow connect to a more Eastern mindset without doing any inner work or systemic change.
I am just not spiritual enough not to care about any material goods. I don’t really think this is a character flaw. Everyone has favorite possessions. We cry if there is a disaster and lose things. We are human.
Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.
William Morris
How I minimize with practicality:
Less is more.
We really don’t need as much as we have and we certainly don’t need more stuff. Having fewer and simpler toys encourages creativity and resourcefulness. Just because an item exists or all her friends have it doesn’t mean it’s needed. Having less is also easier to keep clean and tidy. Having a smaller home means cheaper upkeep and utilities. We purged most of our worthless knick knacks and streamlined surfaces.
What’s the motivation?
Buying stuff doesn’t equal love. Yeah, I know that’s supposed to be one of the love languages, but really? If it’s not useful or needed, don’t buy it. “Retail therapy” is stupid. We gave up giving greeting cards because it gets really expensive and they’re just thrown away. We don’t exchange gifts with extended family anymore either.
Quality over quantity.
Get the best you can afford. Don’t get some cheap knockoff that you’ll have to keep replacing. Do your research and save up for it. We are slowly replacing the cheaper or worn out items we bought in the earlier years of our marriage.Set boundaries.
Determine some boundaries for stuff and don’t let it spill over. Have a place for everything, and don’t buy more storage just to have more stuff. Do you keep certain items only for sentimental value or for some other reason? I had to get over a lot of that, and yes it’s hard.One in, one out.
Purge often. If you get something new, get rid of something else. This helps reduce clutter and keeps priorities straight. No one really needs multiple items in all the colors.
Get organized.
Everything in its place and a place for everything. A neat and tidy house is more peaceful than a cluttered home. Get a system for those cluttery places where you find family members dropping their stuff. Work with it and not against it. Find a method that works for your family. We like pretty natural baskets for toys and simple bookcases with cabinets.
Limit ad exposure.
Ads are everywhere, breeding discontent. Limit exposure to TV, social media, and print advertisements to limit wants. Unsubscribe from store and deal emails. Shopping isn’t entertainment.
Teach value.
Limit the gimmes by having a 3-day wait rule for big purchases. If you still desire the item after 3 days, come up with a plan to afford it. We don’t have huge gift-giving events for birthdays or holidays. We give just a few desired or needed items for birthdays and about 4 items for Christmas and nothing tangible on minor holidays. We have discussions before we go to stores about goals and priorities and there has never been any begging. Our kids have never had a meltdown in the checkout line because I’m proactive and communicate.
Have a plan.
Have a budget or spending plan and stick to it. It helps to be realistic and set aside a little each month instead of splurging and feeling guilty. Ask: Do you need it and/or why do you have it? This limits anxiety.
Practice what you preach.
If you limit your kids’ toys and clothing, also limit your own purchases. Don’t go get the newest tech gadget or new car if your others function just fine. Learn to make do. Model good financial choices to your kids.
If something cost $1,000, and it is on sale for $750, and then you decide to buy it, you did not save $250. You spent $750.
Resources:
- The Minimalist Home: A Room-by-Room Guide to a Decluttered, Refocused Life by Joshua Becker
- Decluttering at the Speed of Life: Winning Your Never-Ending Battle with Stuff by Dana K. White
- The Home Edit Life: The No-Guilt Guide to Owning What You Want and Organizing Everything by Clea Shearer
- Love the Home You Have: Simple Ways to…Embrace Your Style *Get Organized *Delight in Where You Are by Melissa Michaels
- Cleaning House: A Mom’s Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement by Kay Wills Wyma
- The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
- Unstuffed: Decluttering Your Home, Mind, and Soul by Ruth Soukup
- Having a Martha Home the Mary Way: 31 Days to a Clean House and a Satisfied Soul by Sarah Mae
- CHAOS to Clean: in 31 Easy BabySteps by Marla Cilley
- Say Goodbye to Survival Mode: 9 Simple Strategies to Stress Less, Sleep More, and Restore Your Passion for Life by Crystal Paine
- Simply Clean: The Proven Method for Keeping Your Home Organized, Clean, and Beautiful in Just 10 Minutes a Day by Becky Rapinchuk
- Minimalism in the Modern World: How People of Today Minimize Stress Through Decluttering, Home Organization & Digital Minimalism by SC Thompson
- Minimalism Room by Room: A Customized Plan to Declutter Your Home and Simplify Your Life by Elizabeth Enright Phillips
- Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus
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Resources:
- Simply Clean: The Proven Method for Keeping Your Home Organized, Clean, and Beautiful in Just 10 Minutes a Day by Becky Rapinchuk
- How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: Dealing with Your House’s Dirty Little Secrets by Dana K. White
- Cleaning House: A Mom’s Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement by Kay Wills Wyma
- Unstuffed: Decluttering Your Home, Mind, and Soul by Ruth Soukup
- Say Goodbye to Survival Mode: 9 Simple Strategies to Stress Less, Sleep More, and Restore Your Passion for Life by Crystal Paine
- Love the Home You Have: Simple Ways to…Embrace Your Style *Get Organized *Delight in Where You Are by Melissa Michaels
- CHAOS to Clean: in 31 Easy BabySteps by Marla Cilley
- Having a Martha Home the Mary Way: 31 Days to a Clean House and a Satisfied Soul by Sarah Mae
Tyra says
Jennifer,
I don’t no feel I have too much stuff but I’m always looking for encouragement on keeping the stuff to a minimum. With 6 children it’s easy to accumulate stuff and STUFF drives me bonkers. I literally can’t focus when there’s too much. I love your one in one out suggestion. That has been an effective strategy for me for many years. Happy to have visited from Mommy Moments.
Brooke Grangard says
I love minimizing! Too much clutter just makes me feel stressed. Thanks for these tips!
Kapp's Kitchen says
My husband and I have themed 2017 as our “Year of Less.” Our lives are cluttered not only with stuff we don’t use but also our obligations have over-loaded us and the stress has started to manifest in physical ways. It is always freeing to let go of the burdens we don’t need to carry.
Jennifer says
I love this idea so much.
Carol says
Hi Jennifer, good to see a sensible minimalist approach. I don’t like the sterile approach!
Donna Reidland says
I’ve been purging for the last couple of years. It seems like a constant battle. Sentimental items are the hardest for me and my husband.
I like your balanced approach and agree that less means … less stress and makes it so much easier to keep the house looking neat. Thanks for sharing!
Donna Reidland says
BTW, sharing on my Soul Survival FB page and pinning to “Posts Worth Reading” board. Blessings!
Jennifer says
Thanks!
Jolene says
Thank you for sharing these tips. I am constantly reminding my children to put things away when they are done with them.
Kelly R Smith says
Great tips! We are in the middle of Financial Peace University, so this tracks right along with Dave’s teaching. I imagine moving every few years does help you keep things at a minimum. Visiting from #coffeeforyourheart
Lori at Encourage Your Spouse says
Thought provoking tips, Jennifer! I especially like the 7th tip – shopping isn’t entertainment! Yes!
A few years ago my husband and I downsized (to a 10×10 storage unit) and went on the road in our RV – 282 square feet. It’s taught us that a good life has nothing to do with “stuff”! It’s about people and to a lesser degree, experiences.
We have a grandboy now, and we won’t be buying him stuff… we’ll be spending time with him and experiencing life together. (And he seems to prefer a mixing bowl and potato masher to all the toys, anyway.) :-)
Jennifer says
That’s a great undertaking! wow! I’d love to do that someday.
Katherines Corner says
Great post I hope you shared at the Thursday Favorite Things blog party. I pinned to my organize it board. I am continuing my year of the purge.I have a post coming up about my challenge. Hugs!
Beverly says
Great post. Thank you so much for linking at #overthemoon! I look forward to seeing what you share every week. Please come back for #WonderfulWednesday or #ThursdayFavoriteThings. Don’t forget to comment your link #’s so I can be sure to visit and you get a chance to be featured! Pinned and shared.
Hugs,
Bev
Mary Hill says
My main struggle is to many books and magazines. I love to read. Thanks for sharing on the #LMMLinkup this week.
Jennifer says
I don’t include too many books in my purging. We love eBooks and handing down books as we outgrow them.
Christin Baker says
Great tips, Jennifer! We also implement many of these strategies, and I really want to get better at talking to our kids before we go into stores to remind them of our goals–that is so great that your kids don’t beg in the aisles! Blessings to you and your family!
Leigh says
Thanks for sharing at the Healthy Living Link Party!
Blessings, Leigh