So I find myself in an awkward position of marriage counselor and teacher.
I don’t feel quite qualified to do this. I can pray. I can offer advice based on my own experiences. I can offer what the Biblical truth is. Most people don’t want to hear what the Bible has to say. They don’t like to hear God’s views on marriage and parenting. They want an easier way – the world’s way.
In our first class, I taught about the differences in a “Christian” marriage, “Christ-centered” marriage, and worldly marriage. One lady set her jaw and glared at me during entire class. There were only 7 in attendance, so it was a bit unnerving.
God had given me this lesson to teach the other night. He wouldn’t let me sleep until I had jotted it down.
God speaks to me in PowerPoint.
How does He speak to you?
Not really, but it’s funny. All the churches with their screens and presentations…
What Kind of Marriage Do You Have?
I drew this on the board to illustrate the Christ-centered marriage.
So, I explained how marriages would be blessed if the husband led the family (even if his choices seemed worldly) but no blessings if the wife led the family against the husbands wishes (and did all the so-called “right” things). Here’s a blog post that gave me the idea for that lesson. It all comes down to attitude. The glaring lady glared harder at me.
I have a friend who’s struggling in her marriage. Her husband was married before and has a teen daughter with his first wife. They now have two boys and she home schools them. I honestly think most of their problems would be nonexistent if it weren’t for the first wife and daughter. My friend keeps asking me for advice. I certainly can’t judge: I was married before and Elizabeth is from that marriage. I was blessed to have Aaron adopt her and we don’t have to deal with visitation issues. It was hell when I did. It’s so easy to give up, but we have to persevere. Even when it’s hard and it hurts. The daughter needs Christ and I’m pleased that my friend tries to mother her and nurture her and teach her about God. She will be rewarded. She may be confused now, but that girl hopefully will grow up and make wise choices despite her circumstances. My friend is planting the right seeds in her heart. Please pray for them.
And to top it all off, the PCUSA can’t define what marriage is…really?!
So, our church is voting on whether to be dismissed to another denomination. We’re a pretty conservative group. It’s gonna come down to money. It’s just ridiculous. But it worries me. I am teaching that class.
So, as usual, I feel unworthy. My superiority complex is crumbing and I admitting that I am pretty scared to be teaching this class. Who am I? Just a girl.